Question 1 

1. Which of the following are      recommended ways to keep in-laws from becoming out-laws?

  

Make plans early

 

Be careful how you   compromise

 

Be positive when   things turn negative

 

All of the above

0.9 points   

Question 2 

1. The authors prefer to train      couples instead of individuals to become marriage coaches.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 3 

1. This is one of the most common      marriage mentoring mistakes:

  

Trying to solve a   problem before it is fully understood.

 

Allowing the mentees   to fully explain their issue before problem solving

 

Encouraging the   mentees to share and grow

 

Trying to give   advice after the problem is fully explained.

0.9 points   

Question 4 

1. The two critical dynamics      necessary for the success of mentoring relationships are:

  

Responsiveness and   attraction

 

Attraction and   encouragement

 

Attraction and   attention

 

Responsiveness and   attention 

0.9 points   

Question 5 

1. The author compares the process      and content of marriage to

  

baseball.

 

karate.

 

the digestive   system

 

ballet.

0.9 points   

Question 6 

1. In marriage and marriage      mentoring, you must always remember that _____ are hard.

  

People

 

Marriages

 

Beginnings

 

None of the above

0.9 points   

Question 7 

1. When mentoring married couples, it      is important to set ____.

  

Priorities

 

Rules

 

Expectations

 

Boundaries

0.9 points   

Question 8 

1. The section in the book about math      in marriage coaching is used to explain what concept?

  

That division of a marriage   equals less happiness

 

That the   multiplication, or amplification of an issue equates bigger issues

 

That both sides   should receive equal attention

 

That there is value   in every marriage 

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Question 9 

1. What is one the most important      questions for couples to ask themselves when making decisions about their      marriage?

  

What does our   marriage need?

 

What do I want in   our marriage?

 

Should my wants or   my needs be a priority?

 

How can we be most   immediately happy?

0.9 points   

Question 10 

1. For most couples who are doing      pretty well, their primary stumbling block is either the lack of time or      the lack of good communication.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 11 

1. “Subtle selfishness is guaranteed      to leave every married couple feeling more like roommates than soulmates.”

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 12 

1. According to Peter Senge, what is      the first rule of learning?

  

People learn what   they need to learn, not what someone thinks they need to learn.

 

People cannot learn   anything. All behavior is predetermined by God and biology.

 

People can only   learn if they agree with all of what is being taught.

 

None of the above.

0.9 points   

Question 13 

1. Who is responsible for change in      the marriage coaching?

  

The wife

 

The husband

 

Neither a not b

 

Both a and b

0.9 points   

Question 14 

1. It is possible to fake genuineness      without the mentorees noticing.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 15 

1. For readers who are facing a      crisis point in their marriage, what does the author provide?

  

Several strategic   Bible verses.

 

A bonus chapter on   crisis management

 

Contact information   for a crisis coach

 

Contact information   for a clinical psychologist

0.9 points   

Question 16 

1. In which of the following areas      are deficits the easiest to fix?

  

Skill

 

Heart

 

Communication

 

All of the above   are equally easy with the right level of commitment. 

0.9 points   

Question 17 

1. According to the text, what can be      the motivating factor for improvement in a marriage when one partner no      longer wants to try just for the sake of his or her partner?

  

Respect for the   efforts of the marriage counselor

 

Respect for   marriage

 

Opposition to   disrupting family life

 

There is no   alternative. The marriage will probably end in divorce. 

0.9 points   

Question 18 

1. Couples need to attend marriage      counseling in order to effectively learn the skills of asking questions,      listening, and setting goals.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 19 

1. In dealing with conflict in      marriage, it is important to attack the issue, not the _____.

  

Wife

 

Husband

 

Person

 

Dog

0.9 points   

Question 20 

1. As the author reflects back to      when he first got married, he expresses that

  

He was well   prepared for the journey ahead of time.

 

He knew exactly   what he was getting himself into.

 

He was   unconsciously incompetent.

 

He knew that he   would face a lot of challenges.

0.9 points   

Question 21 

1. In the conversation with clients presented      in the book, the author tells the couple that they are going to focus on      the process, instead of the content

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 22 

1. To illustrate the idea that it is      the little things that matter in marriage, the authors use which example?

  

The Princess and   the Pea

 

Mountains and   molehills

 

Mosquito bites and   elephant bites

 

None of the above.

0.9 points   

Question 23 

1. It is beneficial to remind      mentoree couples that it is not important for a couple to continue to work      on their marriage once they transition from husband and wife to dad and      mom.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 24 

1. According to Les and Leslie      Parrott, it is possible for a couple to recover after infidelity has      occurred.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 25 

1. What skill made all the difference      in Ted and Cindy’s relationship?

  

Effective arguing

 

Effective   child-rearing

 

Effective listening

 

Reflective silence 

0.9 points   

Question 26 

1. According to the Les and Leslie      Parrott, which is a caution flag for marriage mentors?

  

Presence of an   addiction

 

Instable marriage

 

Arrogance

 

Both A and B

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Question 27 

1. If you are meeting with a couple      that you genuinely don’t want to meet, you ______

  

should pray for a change   of heart.

 

have no business   mentoring them.

 

call right before   the session to cancel.

 

power through it   for their sake.

0.9 points   

Question 28 

1. A marriage mentor is a more      experienced couple who helps another couple successfully navigate a      journey they have already taken.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 29 

1. Gaining skills in selfless      listening opens the door for couples to

  

fight more often.

 

model godly love.

 

put on a good   façade for others.

 

use more nonverbal communication.

0.9 points   

Question 30 

1. The author talks about hope as one      of the last experiences of whom?

  

Couples who are in   the process of getting divorced

 

Couples who decide   to begin the process of filing for divorce

 

Victims of suicide

 

Everyone who knows   they are about to face death

0.9 points   

Question 31 

1. If necessary, marriage mentors may      need to compromise their values and convictions in working with other      couples.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 32 

1. Approximately 50% of martial      disruptions occur before the third anniversary, and 32% of couples who      separate or divorce do so by the fourth year of marriage.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 33 

1. Mentoring must be amoral in order      to refrain from passing judgments on the personhood of the mentorees as      human beings.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 34 

1. Who or what is the client of      marriage coaching according to the author?

  

The husband

 

The wife

 

Both the husband   and the wife as individuals

 

The marriage itself

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Question 35 

1. What is the function of a Marriage      Coach?

  

Providing   accountability

 

Facilitating   conversation

 

Helping the couple   choose goals

 

All of the above

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Question 36 

1. For the various different issues that      arise for couples in marriage coaching,

  

there is a specific   action plan appropriate for each issue.

 

the same general   process is used regardless of the issue.

 

there are   categories of issues, and each category has its own action plan.

 

any of the above   could be correct depending on the style of the coach. 

0.9 points   

Question 37 

1. All of the following are important      views of self for mentors to have except:

  

I can accept and   respect people who disagree with me.

 

I can make a mistake   and admit it.

 

I have to have all   the answers for the mentoree couple.

 

I know my limits   when it comes to helping others. 

0.9 points   

Question 38 

1. Like in the story of Odysseus,      marriage mentors become the _______ of the marriages you mentor.

  

Guardians

 

Gatekeepers

 

Gurus

 

God-parents

0.9 points   

Question 39 

1. The Parrotts state the this phrase      is a killer for any time-starved conversation and should be dropped from      communication within marriage:

  

“Get to the point.”

 

“I’m not finished   yet.”

 

“Why is this   important?”

 

All of the above.

0.9 points   

Question 40 

1. The authors propose that all of      these are considered vital areas which tend to cause the greatest      consternation for newlyweds except:

  

Handling money

 

Relating with   in-laws

 

Learning the   other’s love language

 

Creating family   traditions

0.9 points   

Question 41 

1. According to the authors, empathy      is a personality disposition that enables you to take the focus off      yourself.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 42 

1. The purpose of marriage counseling      is to tell other people what to do to fix their marriages.

True 

False 

0.9 points   

Question 43 

1. Mentorees who are rushed into      rapid changes will be set up for _____.

  

Success

 

Mistakes

 

Failure

 

Mediocrity 

0.9 points   

Question 44 

1. Which of the following is NOT true      of marriage coaching?

  

Marriage coaching   relies on the coach’s specialized knowledge.

 

Coaches and mentors   are free to share personal experiences.

 

In marriage   coaching, the couple decides what and how to apply what they’ve learned.

 

Marriage coaching   is more similar to mentoring than to counseling. 

0.9 points   

Question 45 

1. It is important to note that the      mentoring relationship is  ___________.

  

Mutually agreed   upon

 

Biblically based

 

Necessary for life

 

None of the above.

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Question 46 

1. What is one great question to ask      or statement to make to begin a conversation to feel out the listener’s      ability to be receptive?

  

“I need you now.”

 

“Is this a good   time to talk?”

 

“This is an   emergency.”

 

“How are you doing   today?”

0.9 points   

Question 47 

1. All of the above are caution flags      for those wanting to become marriage mentors except:

  

You are pessimistic   about marriage in general.

 

You’re main   motivation is to help your own marriage.

 

One of you is far   more motivated to become a marriage mentor than the other.

 

You enjoy pouring   into younger couples. 

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Question 48 

1. Successful marriage coaching      results in

  

a continual   reliance on marriage coaching.

 

a desire to   continue marriage coaching.

 

emancipation from   the coach.

 

a perfect marriage.

0.9 points   

Question 49 

1. Fill in the blanks: The quality of      __________________ is directly related to the quality of      __________________.

  

healing;   relationships;

 

relationships;   conversations

 

process; content

 

marriage,   individuals

0.9 points   

Question 50 

1. What is the second part of the      miracle question? “If God want to give you a miracle for your marriage, …”

  

“… what would it   look like?”

 

“… how would your   relationship with your spouse change?”

 

“… would you be   happy?”

 

“… would you be   willing to receive it?”